Tuesday, May 04, 2010

Some things just really, REALLY piss me off

I have to vent for a few minutes, bear with me.

I have a friend on Facebook who posts frequent status updates. She also works doing a home business, which I think is awesome. She doesn't live anywhere near me, so I often get a laugh out of her updates and catching up with pictures of her and her family on Facebook.

Until today when her status update was something along the lines of "I get to have cupcakes with my daughter for her birthday at preschool because I don't have a mean boss and I don't have to take off work in order to be there for all of my kids' events" yada, yada, yada.

And maybe I shouldn't take offense to this. I mean, she is also frequently posting updates to try and get people to join her sales team, and this is most likely aimed at that as well. You know, work for me and you will only have to have 2 parties a month and make thousands of dollars.

But DAMN, I am there for all my kids stuff. I volunteer monthly in Ashley's class. Friday morning muffins for Mom at Audrey's school? I will be there. I have had lunch with Ashley so many times I have lost count (it helps that I work from home one day a week...).

I held back from responding to her post. I could have, maybe should have, but in the end I don't like confrontation. And as I said before, I don't think it was her intention to slam Moms who work outside of the home at a 9-5 job.

Okay, I think I have calmed down now.


Jaki said...

AMEN! Agree! I too will be in Jeremy's classroom on Thursday morning for thier special Mother's Day presentation! I also have an awsome, understanding, working father married to a working mother for a boss! He's actually letting me miss a quarterly meeting out of town to be in class on Thursday saying, "Your son is only in Kindergarten once...you can't miss Mother's Day!" Here's to all us in the working mother sisterhood! WE ROCK TOO!

Ann said...

I understand completely. I wish people would stop and think about those kind of statements before they put them out there. It seems like from the moment you become a Mother you are getting hit from all sides with judgement about your choices. It makes me want to slap people sometimes. I have managed to refrain from actually doing it...for now.

Bethany said...

I know exactly how you feel.

Happy Working Mom said...

I'm with you. And while I'd love to say I go to all of kylie's things, I can't and don't. I get to the big stuff, but I don't have the luxury of going to everything, and I'm OK with that. But I too have been feeling a lot of pressure from people that don't work and don't understand that while my family comes first all the time, there are times I have to decide what is truly important, work that has to get done or some buddy activity at school.

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Amy W said...

Yup, I deleted that comment because I can.

And what I was refering to was another coworker's reference, not yours.

Anonymous said...

I am SO tired, annoyed, pissed off at the constant battle between working Moms, SAHMs and those that have home based businesses.

We ALL work. I don't give a crap if you make a 20 mile commute after dropping your kids off at daycare, shuffle down the hall in your jammies and fuzzy fricken bunny slippers to your office or spend your days running errands, cleaning and caring for your child(ren).

It's work. Hard, demanding, draining work.

Maybe she didn't mean it as a dig at working Moms. Maybe she did. I'm not her, so I can't say.

But, really? ENOUGH! We're Mamas...let's support each other and band together and STOP with the "you suck as a parent because you work a 9-5 job" and the "I'm better than you because my kid goes to dance and gymnastics and your's doesn't because you live off your husband's income only."

From one Mama to another...you're awesome. You do what you do the very best you can and your children will grow up healthy, happy and grateful.

Happy Mother's Day!

unicyclerose said...

I have been on both sides of this fence and like everything else in life there are pros and cons to working full time, or staying at home with the kids 24/7. Sorry your friend did not think before she posted....