Monday, September 11, 2006

Statues and Birth Defects

Last weekend, we attended a surprise 30th birthday party for a neighbor of ours. Kids were welcome as our neighbor had activities for the kids to do. Other neighbors that we have hung out with outside were there as well. One of their daughters has a birth defect, her right hand is deformed. I guess Ashley had never noticed it before when we have been playing with them. But in the confined room we were in, the girls all decided to hold hands and run around the room. Needless to say, Ashley became fascinated with her right hand. She kept trying to hold it and stared at it. I assume this is normal for her age. Then they had a group activity to do and all the kids lined up. Ashley then turned to me and said, "Mommy, she has a little hand." I wanted to dig a hole and bury myself. Instead, I discreetly pulled Ashley aside and explained to her that people come in a all shapes and sizes, and some people will be very different from you and I. I think some of it sank in as she left her alone the rest of the time.

The other thing that happened at the party involved Ashley and a decorative statue of a golfer that was in the room we were. The statue was exactly Ashley's height. So off went Ashley to talk to the "golfer." Talking turned into giving the golfer a hug, then kissing the golfer before Ray and I put a stop to the molesting of the statue. I wish I had my camera with me!


CPA Mom said...

I think you handled that very well and appropriately for her age. Good for you!

Michele_3 said...

I think you handled that really well too..
Once my older son when he was 3 saw a guy in the grocery store with no arm & screamed out from being so scared ..He was truly horrified!

I was so embarrased & had to take him outside & not only calm him down but explain to him how people are different- some are born like that, some have accidents but were all human beings etc..

It can be truly hard to explain to kids who may not understand, I hear kids question their moms a lot about my own son's disorder when were out to eat or something. It just really matters the way you handle it..

Too funny about the golfer statue!

Silly Hily said...

Whew, I thought you were going to say she broke the statue.
As far as the other little girl, yes, handled very well. It's all part of us teaching them and them learning from us.