Tuesday, January 15, 2008

10 years is a really, really long time...

One of our neighbor's houses went on the market yesterday. Come to find out, they are moving because they are getting a divorce. And they have 3 kids under the age of 5. This just gets to me. How sad is that for the kids, how hard it will be for the parents, and that's just crazy. That makes 2 families on our street to have this happen in the short time we have lived here.

I pretty much told Ray he's stuck with me, good or bad, better or worse.

And this June, we will be celebrating 10 years together in marriage...I have hinted and hinted on him taking me away for a weekend. Ray reads here, so any good ideas for places for him to take me to would be greatly appreciated. Just remember we live in North Carolina...

23 comments:

CPA Mom said...

You what I think? Anyone who says the marriage vows is saying to their spouse "You are stuck with me, good or bad, better or worse" - or at least they should remember that (except in cases of abuse of course). Is that preachy? I hope not. I'm just so tired of divorces.

NEW YORK CITY BABY!

Sunshine said...

For our 10th (this June will be our 15th) we went to Las Vegas with another couple and we got "remarried" at a drive thru wedding chapel. It was a blast and even just a quickie 5-day trip to Vegas was a nice little getaway.

I've said the same things, I'm keeping the hubster, I don't want to even think about retraining another one!

Beccy said...

I think there are plenty of cases where a divorce is the only road to follow but there are many more where it is seen as the easy option and often couples don't think through the full ramifications or work hard enough to make their marriages work. When I hear of a seperation I often think 'there but for the grace of god goes me'.

Kellie said...

Divorce sucks. Kids. No kids. House. No house. It's craptastic. But, sometimes it just is the only solution.

How about a long weekend (4 days) to Aruba? Vegas? Disney?

Rachel said...

Ahem, I hear Memphis is nice in June.

Honestly, the fact that the kids are so young (eventually) make it easier on them. I know that sounds crazy, but I've been divorced, I know. Kaylie doesn't remember any thing about it.

Sabrina said...

Divorce always makes me sad, especialy when it involves children. We had a "friend" about a year ago that was trying to break up my marriage, even though we had kids and everything. It was absolutely horrible and I have no idea what he was thinking, trying to turn my husband against me. HOnestly.
Regardless to say, we don't talk to him anymore.

Edie said...

Ray... DEFINITELY the Biltmore Inn!!! So nice and romantic!!

That Chick Over There said...

Have you been to Cape Hatteras? Ooooh and I second The Biltmore. We went at Christmas and it was glorious.

I hate divorce, but I've been divorced and well, it's been okay. I mean, I don't think it really damaged my kids. It's a different situation, of course, but still.

I think if the parents work at it then it can possibly be healthier to be divorced if the marriage is really bad. But the parents have to WORK at it. And most of them, sadly, do not.

I get what you are saying though. Jason is totally stuck with me until he dies prematurely from smoking to much.

wolfbaby said...

I totally get what your saying I have told my hubs time and again he is stuck with me he tries to leave me and im hunting him down and handcuffing him to the bed.. ugh TMI? *clears throat which i think gets a twinkle in his eye

it's sad your rigt and it sucks..

happy anniversry.. me i'd just go to a hotel not even far away but where you two can be alone and enjoy each other!!!

Misty said...

that is sad... it breaks my heart to hear of divorce, in any size family. It's so tragic...
10 years is wonderful! I am on the other side of the country so I know no where cool for you to go- but congrats anyway!!!

SJ said...

Divorce is crappy no matter how you look at it. I just hope that they are really focusing on the kids. They are usually the ones that suffer the most.

And for some reason a good suggestion escapes me as to where you and Ray can go for your 10th wedding anniversary. Maybe a short 4 day cruise or something to a close destination?

dawn224 said...

Ugh. (to the divorce, cheers to your ten years!)

Do you need to stay close to home or not?

Lil Mouse said...

niagara falls in january is awesome... all the ice going over the falls... very romantic!

Pam said...

Well, if it were my 10 year anniversary...I would think a couples weekend at a spa for massages or whatever would sound wonderful. Those Sandals resorts are nice- we went there for our honeymoon.

Carrie Sue said...

I hear you, I've been married for 16 years and there are rough roads but it pays to hang in for the long haul. Raleigh... well you could go west to http://www.lakeviewnc.com/ or east to http://www.thesanderling.com/ or south to http://www.pinehurst.com/. Have fun!

la bellina mammina said...

I agree with Rachel and Beccy. In the long run it's better that than having 2 angry, fighting parents. Which affects the kids in the long run.

Congrats to you and Ray! :-)

HollowSquirrel said...

Divorce does suck big time, and you don't know all that's going on behind the doors. Ugh!

Now to your fab marriage & the trip you guys so richly deserve...hmmm... are you more of a city person or would you rather have a relaxing trip? I, of course, vote for NYC for a big city or Minneapolis, cuz it rocks bigger time than people know. How 'bout Savannah, GA for more of a slower paced trip?!

Steph said...

Congrats on your 10 year! We will also be celebrating ours this year (in October), and I am HOPING for a getaway too! I have no suggestions for you though...I'm all th way out here in Colorado. Which, by the way, is a beautiful place!

Lost A Sock said...

Vegas. Vegas Vegas Vegas.

(But just because I've never been there and I'm dying to go. We keep saying we're going to go one of these anniversaries. Our tenth is on the horizon.)

And also, yes. That's terribly sad and so hard on the kids. Our culture gives up way too easily.

Heather said...

I've been married 10 years now too. It's so sad to see families break up like that. Especially for kids.

As for places to go - somewhat nearby, I'd say Hilton Head or Savannah. Further away - love the Vegas idea. I also LOVE Chicago.

Heather said...

I forgot to say Congrats on YOUR ten years!!

stewbie2 said...

Divorce does suck--been there. But oftentimes, it's the best thing to do. We, too, had been married for 10 years (together for 15).

my4kids said...

That is really sad...
I know too many people who have ended there marriages like that and it is so hard for little kids like that and the parents.

No good ideas for a trip. Kelly and I went on a little road trip for our 10th just gone for 4 days no kids and no plans for me this was heaven we didn't have to be anywhere.